Every time I see the phrase trigger warning I cringe. Why? While some gross and violent content deserves a trigger warning, these warnings are often used on content that is simply raw and honest. If we put bumpers around everything that causes people to react, we are slowing their potential growth. Triggers are the mind, body, and soul's way of saying heal thyself.
In my practice, I use the client's triggers for substantial growth. Getting triggered can be an opportunity for personal and mindful growth if approached with self-awareness and a willingness to learn.
Here are some steps you can take to utilize triggers for personal growth:
- Recognize and acknowledge triggers: Start by becoming aware of the situations, behaviors, or comments that trigger a strong emotional response. Take note of the patterns and specific triggers that consistently affect you.
- Pause and observe your reactions: When you encounter a trigger, take a moment to pause and observe your immediate emotional and physical reactions. Notice the sensations in your body, your thoughts, and the intensity of your emotions. Mindfully witnessing your reactions helps create a space between the trigger and your response.
- Reflect on the underlying cause: Dig deeper to understand why a particular trigger affects you. Triggers almost always stem from past experiences, beliefs, or unresolved emotional wounds. Reflect on what the trigger represents and how it connects to your personal history or core values.
- Practice self-compassion: Instead of judging or criticizing yourself for being triggered, offer self-compassion. Understand that triggers are a normal part of being human, and it's okay to have emotional responses. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding as you navigate the process of growth.
- Explore the lessons and opportunities for growth: Once you have identified the trigger and its underlying cause, explore what you can learn from it. Ask yourself: What does this trigger reveal about my beliefs or fears? How can I respond differently in a way that aligns with my values? What skills or perspectives can I develop to overcome this trigger in the future?
- Seek support if needed: If you find it challenging to navigate triggers independently, consider seeking support from a mentor, counselor, guide, or trusted friend. They can provide guidance, insights, and tools to help you work through your triggers and foster personal growth.
- Implement coping strategies: As you work on personal growth, develop healthy coping strategies to manage triggers when they arise. These strategies may include deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, journaling, reframing thoughts, or engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
Remember, personal growth is an ongoing process that takes time and patience. Embrace the triggers as opportunities for self-discovery and use them to deepen your understanding of yourself and enhance your overall well-being.